The title of this blog post is a quote I read many months ago. This quote slapped me upside the head like a two ton brick, because rewarding myself with food is exactly what I’ve always done. And I’m here to tell you, it’s a hard habit to break. Even as a clean eater. But it’s not impossible…
I noticed a while back that I was beginning to become more aware of my inclination to turn to food for comfort. And this was a turning point for me. Because if you can take notice of what you are doing, it suddenly breaks a pattern that has become automatic.
I’d be willing to bet that for most of you comfort eaters (and you know who you are), comfort eating is mindless eating. You turn to food without a second thought. There is an automatic assumption that you will feel better if you eat ___________ (fill in the blank). And guess what? For a short amount of time (usually the amount of time it takes to eat whatever you’re eating), you DO feel better! It’s absolute, instant gratification! What’s not to love?
But we also know what happens right after that instant relief hits. Just about the time we finish eating whatever it is we’re eating. The guilt sets in. The self deprecation and even disgust kick in, and we suddenly find ourselves in a place we never intended to end up in. A place that leaves us feeling worse than we felt before we ate what we ate.
I know this cycle WAY too well. I know it by heart. I can play it out in my mind every time I think about rewarding myself with food. I can think ahead and already feel the disgust with myself that I will feel if I eat for comfort. It’s a simple and easy response to a stressful situation, but it doesn’t solve anything. Eating does not deliver comfort or stress relief. While it may provide a few instantaneous chemical changes in the body that do indeed make us think we feel better, the truth is, it’s the long lasting “feel-better” we are after. And we never get that when we eat for comfort.
So with that in mind, I asked you guys how you treat yourselves without food. Below is a list of 30 things you can do instead. But remember, the first step is to recognize it every time you begin the cycle. If you don’t recognize it, you can’t fix it.
Note: I realize many of these are things you can buy. Some people were not happy with that. But I will say this… You absolutely do not have to buy yourself something to reward yourself. This is simply a list I compiled from my readers. Ideas that they shared with me. If you have any “non-purchase” ideas, please feel free to share them in a comment. I’d love to hear them!
YOU ARE HUMAN. REWARD YOURSELF WITH ONE OF THESE:
- Go for a walk on a beautiful day (truthfully, this is my favorite. Time to think and time to feel better!)
- Get a manicure and/or pedicure
- Have a massage (okay, maybe this one is my favorite….)
- Go to a movie
- Buy a new shirt/skirt/outfit/shoes
- Buy a new workout DVD
- Buy a new book
- Read a magazine
- Window shop
- Rent a movie
- Give yourself a facial
- Have a girl’s/boy’s night out with friends
- Take the dog to a dog park
- Buy new workout clothes or shoes
- Take a drive
- Go fishing
- Go for a hike
- Go rock climbing
- Do something you’ve been a little afraid to do
- Hang out with a kid who could use a friend
- Visit a friend you haven’t seen in ages
- Buy yourself some flowers ( I do this a lot)
- Go berry/apple/fruit picking
- Walk through a farmer’s market and just enjoy the people
- Buy craft supplies
- Buy some new makeup
- Get a new haircut or color
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