You read it on nearly every single health blog. It’s such a common term, and it gets waaaaay overused. Everyone and their mother is on a “weight loss journey“, and frankly, I’m sick of reading it.
I think the term itself gets thrown around a bit loosely these days. People say it (I’ve said it myself), but what do they mean by it? Is it just an easy thing to reference or are they really and truly on a spectacular new journey?
Despite all my healthy eating, despite being more active, despite my best laid plans, I’m not much further than I was when I started.
Have I somehow missed the point of my “weight loss journey”? Did I skip a chapter or two in the clean eating bible? Maybe, but not really.
To me, a journey is not about the beginning when you have motivation and excitement about starting something new. The journey is what happens when that initial excitement is gone and you’re down to the day-to-day of it all. It’s about discovery. It’s about the desire to learn something new. The dedicated quest for expanding your mind and an honest openness to allow your “journey” to change you. But does being on a journey for weight loss mean that we achieve our goals? Maybe, maybe not.
I will share with you that I have a terrible phobia at the moment. I live in dread of somebody actually recognizing me from this web site. Why?
Because after nearly 4 years of publishing this blog, I’m still fat.
I’ve struggled with eating disorders for the better part of 20 years. First with under eating, and now with over eating. It’s a daily struggle and I can tell you that even on those days when I cave and completely lose myself in a binge (yes, it still happens from time to time), if you’re willing to learn from the worst of it, than the worst of it was worth experiencing. And if you don’t learn from it, all you did was experience being miserable. The choice is yours.
The truth is, I’ve been eating clean for the better part of 4 years and I’m still significantly overweight.
Does that bother me? Daily.
Have I learned a lot along the way? You betcha’.
Am I any closer to my goal? Definitely.
Maybe not as close as I’d like to be, but I’m further along than I was when I started all of this nearly 4 years ago. And I’ll take any little bit of progress I can get.
My point in all this, is to take a moment to remind you, as well as myself, that it’s vital to notice the little bits of progress that happen day to day as well as over the long haul. We can’t be on a journey if we are not open to allowing ourselves to be changed in the smallest of ways. And frankly, the biggest change happens when we find ourselves in the worst possible situations, IF we leave ourselves open to that change and the subsequent life lessons.
So am I on a weight loss journey? I hope so. I believe so. I know I’m excited to see what life throws my way, I’m excited to have new experiences and learn new things. I know that I’ve made some progress and that I’m a very different person then when I started.
Even if I haven’t yet reached my goals, I’ve learned, I’ve grown and I’ve changed. To me, that’s worth far more than any number a scale.
Thankfully, I was born a stubborn sort of girl. And while that works against me in some areas of my life, I also believe it works for me in this quest for better health. I know I will eventually achieve my goals by pure perseverance. The fact is, if you never give up the quest for change, at the end of the journey, you will definitely be changed. Maybe not in the same ways you expected, but definitely for the better.
So I beg you…. if you use the term “weight loss journey”, don’t talk about the beginning. Be sure you’re actually ON a journey first. Because frankly, the term should definitely have meaning, and lots of it.